Hello jcl76: I'm sorry to read of your difficulty. I'm afraid I don't have any particular suggestions for you with regard to this. Hopefully the two of you can remain friends &, perhaps over time, this lady's perspective may change. If not, there's not much you can do but move on. In the meantime, hopefully you are involved in some therapeutic activities to help you to address your BPD. I send warm thoughts your way with the hope that you will be able to find the companionship you seek...