To all the PC Family

I am writing this against my better judgment but I too can have a say in this whole matter. When did PC become a place of discrimination?? To speak about this statement is that when I had the opportunity to read the post it seemed to me that members who chose this way out “ To leave” was labeled as having an additional sickness or looking for attention .

Now with that being said I am far from saying that everyone is participating in this campaign of discrimination. These are my feelings and my opinions only

First, to the ones who have been thru some sort of therapy > If you remember that leaving is a coping response just as avoidance is another coping response.

People deal with certain events in different ways this is what makes us all different from each other.

If everyone didn’t know I teach Anger Management and what I see here is that we are in an environment that is comprised of didn’t backgrounds, environmental issues and mental issues.

As other members that have posted prior to the post mentioned there is nothing wrong with how it is done or what is done. Some of us are taking offense to something that they do not have any control over. I’m not in the business to control feelings or actions of others.

My opinion is that everything in life is a choice... We choose to feel a certain way, It is our choice to live a certain way. We are a product of our own environments … Once again this is my opinion and I choose to express it

Let’s get down to the bottom of this matter as quick as we can ….

This post was based on the feelings at the moment of a wonderful member here. We as adults should grasp the ideology of others when it actually helps us.

As said previously on the post we are here to support each other not make deliberate attacks on each other.

Muffy as my dear friend you know my answer to this problem …. People are entitled to their opinion we do not know if this was a deliberate act against you. I will always tell please do not assume because assumptions hold no fact until proven…

On the grand scope of everything here does this really matter if someone posts “Hey I’m Leaving” It is what it a post is advising some friends that they might be leaving

What if that person uses this post to get attention??? Do you think that a hurtful thread will allow them to get the needed help that they require? Does that thread really want to make them leave more ?

I will give you my experience here and why I want to leave PC and then I will explain why I haven’t

Over the last couple of weeks my dear friend and I have been battling some bad rumors that have we have been advised of.

I have been accused of having an online affair, I have been accused of being a slut and a ***** (I’m a guy) I have been accused of being unfair and hateful, I have been accused of multiple things on PC

Well here is the kicker a friend of mine that is also a member on PC has been accused of having an affair with me. She doesn’t deserve any of this because she is a dear friend of mine and I will go down in flames defending her honor.

So you ask why I am here still.

11 months ago I came here as a broken man that couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel... I wanted to just crawl up and die inside.

Then I made a post telling my story and the response that I received from people like Biplol, Sweet Sunshine, Septmorn, Notthemama Snowflake changed my life.

And I can say changed my life … I took their advice and walked hand n hand with Jesus thru the hardest storm of my life. What could I have asked for better than a “God Breeze” called PC?

As the days and months grew longer I learned very valuable skills from these same members and others that have put in their emotions and logical thoughts into what I was doing.

Then after going to Anger Management classes for 20 Weeks I was asked to share my experience with new members of the Anger Management class … Another “God Breeze”

I get to practice what I preach. I have utilized my experience from PC to my anger management class as well as the experience from Anger Management class to here on PC another “God Breeze”

Somewhere around the end of 2006 I met some great people that have had an influence over the new me. I went to work right away studied as hard as I could to beat BIPOLAR Disorder. I changed how I thought about things and how these events caused certain emotions. I asked these same people to keep me going in the right direction. What a heavy burden I placed on them but they stood up to the task and now today I am “ME”... Did you know that 3 months ago my PDOC took me off all meds for anxiety and BPD?? They claim Oh we misdiagnosed you but I know between the swift hand of God and some support from God sent people I beat an incurable situation. Let me be the Testimony that helps everyone here know that it can be done.

Sweet has been there from the beginning and has heard the tears hit the phone before she has endured the explosiveness of my anger and has experienced the very caring side of me.

Muffy (my best friend) has taught me that people do matter that to allow a kid to be a kid. I have learned to have patience with the world and people. Muffy knows everything about me, my background, and environment, thoughts, how strong my faith is, and knows all about the loves of my life

She has been a great friend because she allows me to be me. She understands my strengths and supports my weaknesses. Can we ever ask for a better friend than this? I thank God for people like Muffy everyday because a life of hate, sadness, turmoil would be very difficult to live. Sunshine Manor (muffy’s home) what a vision a place where the light shines from every direction. Light a representation of God’s enduring grace upon all of us.

Els….

This young lady has given me more strength than anyone else on PC... I see her endure a very painful situation by herself. We met and we took a walk thru the internet to a place know as the “Tree House” The tree house was designed as a private room where everyone is welcomed but no drama allowed . The members of the tree house know that this is where we can be ourselves where the outside world doesn’t matter. We ask that the mask that you wear fall at the trunk of the mighty oak. We have a tendency to bury these masks. An el steals my fruit loops and makes me laugh and my daughter just loves talking to her.

Agony:

This girl has taught me compassion and love again. How could I love anyone if I hated myself? What an up and down journey that the both of us shared with each other. From time to time we still share the journey but I cannot ask for a better teacher than Agony.

Snow:

A big sister that just tells me like it is. Snow is my anchor because she doesn’t allow me to lose focus too much. She keeps this high flyer grounded and tells me that “ Faith is important” When I wanted to trade everything away for love Snow intervened and advised me that I have the Greatest Love of all just if I could wait.

TRM/KATHY

Adversity is their claim to fame. If this couple keep it together and hold a family as tight as they do. Well then no challenge is too great for me as long as I have God by my side guiding me thru the turbulent channels.

To close this post… I’m here because I believe in people; I have a heart and compassion for others. I learn from each one of you regardless of the positive or negative approach to the issue I still learn.

I’m here for you and God placed certain people in my life to learn from and he placed me in other people lives to learn from me.

So, on this note we are here to help, support, grow, learn, understand, and to be who we are and not what other people thinks we should be.

To all my friends and family we must embrace each other with open arms and open ears to understand what God wants is to learn.

David