I am having a difficult time dealing with my younger brother and now I'm constantly analyzing it. It's driving me crazy.

All my life I tried to keep my family together. I think it's because I'm a middle child. But now I want to give up this mission for good. Enough is enough.

My relationship has been strained with my younger brother for many years. He tends to blame me for things I had nothing to do with, but doesn't tell me. I usually find out indirectly and I am shocked that he would blame me. It doesn't make sense to me.

I've had enough of his disrespectful behaviour towards me. He never responds if I text him about something important. He presents himself like a charmer, yet he never keeps his promises. If he wants something from you, he'll be your best buddy, but vice versa, he won't help me out so I don't ask.

To keep my family together, I used to call him and he would say things like he has no time to talk because he's watching a TV show, so I stopped calling him.

He recently borrowed money from my father (he has a history of not paying my dad back) because he was in dire need. My dad wasn't going to give him any, but my brother was almost crying. He promised profusely that he would pay dad back within 30 days when he is paid from a lucrative contract, which would have been early May. I know he was paid because he emailed me to brag.

In July (I wasn't there), my father mentioned the loan to him and my brother got very furious and said, "What money? I don't owe you any." Then my brother stormed off and hasn't called my dad ever since. He didn't even call at Thanksgivings which is very upsetting. I really don't understand why my brother got so furious when my dad asked. Why didn't he just say, I'll pay you back soon. What the hell is wrong with him?

My father is elderly and needs help. I've been the only one helping my father and my idiot brother is MIA.

I want to end my relations with my brother for good, but I find myself constantly analyzing the relationship and all the BS stuff he has done to me.

I don't want to send him birthday cards or Christmas cards anymore. If I see him at a family function, I'll be civil. Unfortunately, even when I made up my mind, I can't seem to stop analyzing it and wondering why my bother is acting like this.