So I posted a little of my family issue in new introductions, but realise that is not the place for ongoing discussions about issues.

Just quickly, had a big family blowout over the weekend, where I was abused by a family member and then blamed and attacked by my mother for trying to publicly lay a boundary. This is typical scapegoat stuff, see "dysfunctional family handbook" =)

Anyways, that is how it was left, no discussion, no nothing. I have been waiting anxiously for the grand gesture that usually follows such a scene, or any attempt by myself to problem solve....However my mother took a slightly different approach this time by texting me and asking if she could borrow my electric massage machine for dads back. No acknowledgement of the bad scene during the weekend...nothing..... I sat on it for awhile, considering if or even how to reply and came up with this....

"I would like to be helpful, but I am not sure how gracefully communicate to you that I am not willing to pretend that everything is OK. How about I leave the massager in the letterbox for you, with the understanding that this is not me agreeing that there is nothing for us to talk about"

To which there was no reply of course, I'm not really expecting one.

Any thoughts of how I could have handled this differently?