I disagree with not being able to ask for qualities that you don't you yourself have. I also think its ridiculous to be asking for certain qualities in the first place. I guess I'm a bit biased in that I myself don't have a lot in life because I'm disabled....so on the outset, I could only get guys who don't have a job and live with their families. Uhm....no, I refuse to accept that. My intelligence makes up for what I don't have. I have a drive to change which very few people possess. I have an online friend who is much the same, smart as ***** and driven to change (I've seen how far he's come over the years.) He can't find a woman to date because nobody has any foresight. Women don't want to look deeper into who he is and give him a chance. If i didn't live 4 hours away from him, I'd SO date him. (I know he cares for me too, but yeah, the distance thing....sigh.) I guess what I'm trying to say is that there are indeed a lot of short-sighted people out there who only see what you put in front of them. They don't care about where you're going in life. Avoid these people at ALL costs, as when things go downhill, they'll be the first to abandon you.

Just be yourself. Stay away from stupid dating sites. People list all of these things they want in an ideal partner, but in the end, you click with who you click with, regardless of whether or not they meet all of your requirements on a check list.