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Originally Posted by peaches100
How long should a person be understanding, accepting, empathetic, forgiving, and overlook things that their friend/spouse/acquaintance does that they find hurtful? How long do they overlook it before they let that person know they have hurt feelings? How many times do they bring it up? How long do they let it go on before they decide to cut ties?
It's not that I am trying to be mean or a hard nose, or even that I don't care about them anymore. I still do. But I've had too many relationships like this, and I've been hurt too many times because of it. I just can't do it anymore. I realize I've already reached my limit.
What are your thoughts? Experiences?
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Hi peaches 100 : This is my experience. (I don't give advice because that's easy to do). I've
been through what your talking about. I can share my experience.
I tell people pretty quickly what I'm about and what I need from a relationship or whatever. I tell them when I feel hurt. If there is no response or attempt to make things work then I need to back off.
I've wasted so much time " waiting " for what I needed. Meanwhile your meeting their needs or not also.
The main thing I've learned is about EXPECTATIONS .I expected this or that and when it didn't happen things would get hot. If you don't get is selflessly and without always asking then you ain't going to get it. Some people just won't or never can change. It all depends on how much time you want to put into it.