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Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey
I guess what I'm trying to say is that there are indeed a lot of short-sighted people out there who only see what you put in front of them. They don't care about where you're going in life. Avoid these people at ALL costs, as when things go downhill, they'll be the first to abandon you.
Just be yourself. Stay away from stupid dating sites. People list all of these things they want in an ideal partner, but in the end, you click with who you click with, regardless of whether or not they meet all of your requirements on a check list.
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I don't think it's about being short-sighted. I think it's about being realistic and about falling in love with who someone is NOW and not trying to change them or envision who you think they might become. I dated a woman for 5 years and, at the beginning, was really excited about all of things she told me she was going to do-- she was going to finish her education, persue a career in social work, and put in 50% with housework, finances, etc. I waited 5 years for all of these things to happen. They never did. And during those five years I finished my education, got a full-time job, paid all the bills, and did all the housework. I was TIRED and stressed out and miserable keeping 2 people afloat while she didn't contribute. How is it wrong to want a partner who can contribute 50%? I'm MUCH happier with my current partner who pulls her own weight. Everyone has their flaws, but I want to be with someone who is an equal partner. Not everyone feels the way I do; everyone is different. I'm just stating my personal opinion.