A full BJ may not be in the works for you two. I have been blessed with a tiny mouth inside. While I was still with my ex H, he knew that the likelihood of getting bitten or scraped was pretty good. So he would just rather not risk it, plus it was not exactly comfortable for me either.

But there are so many more gifts a tongue can provide that does not have to be full on oral sex. Lots of licking and caressing, and kissing of that area and such can be quite stimulating as well. Maybe try some of those kind of things instead. Find a new favorite pastime.