Hey Lazarus,

DBT is awesome and if you can find a therapist and DBT group to join, I highly recommend it. There are great online resources but it's tough to do it alone.

Radical Acceptance is accepting reality, exactly as it is, right now, without judgement. It's not labeling something as "good" or "bad", it simply IS. RA doesn't mean we like it or it's not scary or uncomfortable, all it means is that we accept it. RA is one of the emotional regulation skills that DBT teaches that can help with your fear of doing it again. If we have BPD we often react emotionally without thinking. (Heck, a lot of people who don't have BPD do that too!) When we learn to regulate our emotions we have the ability to stop and really decide what it is that we want to do. That way, you don't have to be afraid that it will happen again because you know that doing so would be a *choice* and you will not choose that action/reaction.

Good luck!

DD