Oh, sweetie, I can't imagine being in your shoes!

(((((((hugs))))))))

I think you did the right thing hanging up, and it's best to just refuse to talk to any alter that is inappropriate and/or hurtful toward you. In the meantime, you could suggest to another more reasonable alter that they need to get into therapy like NOW, and that what this other one does HURTS you.

I know you must be worried sick about your mom. But you have GOT to take care of yourself, too. You are not responsible for her and you don't owe her a thing. You have many problems of your own to tackle because of the things that happened to you in your childhood.

My best advice would be to remember that these alters are separate people, and some of them might be ok for you to be in contact with, but that doesn't mean you have to be in contact with anyone that will hurt you. And if need be, you can stay out of contact with the whole of them. It's up to you to determine if there is anything worth hanging around for here.

Just one question, though, are you seeing a T of your own? I can't remember. Maybe it would be a good idea if you're not. It would probably be a good idea to talk to a T who knows a fair amount about DID, too.

(((((((((more hugs))))))))))

I feel for you!

Angela