Half of me feels I could possibly be reacting and letting small things get to me but the other half says "no." What do ya'll think?

1. That old lady neighbor that I spoke of once before that seems too dependent on me? Well... She's been stressing over some inconsequential stuff, like another neighbor driving by and giving her the finger. I told her to either ignore her or laugh in her face to show that it's not working if making her angry is her intention. As far as I know, she hasn't done it. Day before yesterday, the "old lady" called me 5 times and came over twice. I didn't respond to either. Yesterday, she left me a message to the effect that either I'm not answering my phone again or I just didn't want to be bothered by her. (Really now!? She wouldn't be trying to guilt me, now would she?) She's at it again today. I'm at the point that I don't feel free to go outside or to keep my front door open. Obviously, I have to say something to her because she's not taking the hint.

2. One of my next door neighbors has been saying things that I could easily interpret as manipulative. Up until day before yesterday, I just chose to ignore his comments. You see, I have all of my huge, gorgeous shade plants in part of my carport which backs up to his so called "back yard." There's a long lattice that divides his property from mine. The other neighbor whose property backs up to my carport has given me permission to do whatever I choose with his little strip of dirt and stepping stones. I've got various little things growing along the property line. One was a couple of raspberry "sticks"... just the bare root ones, that I planted this spring. Two of them have died. The first one, I pulled out and replanted because they seem to need more water than what they were getting there. The second one looked dead and dry, but I've noticed that the surviving raspberries send out shoots from underground. I was hoping that if I kept this last little stick watered and fertilized with bunny poop, it might send me up a miracle.

To humor the neighbor that is putting up a so-called patio, I cut off the dead part of the raspberry. What he really wanted was for me to pull it out completely so he could put a brick there and finish off a walkway that was started by the other neighbor.

I went away for a while and when I came back, I saw that the "patio builder" had taken his cement chisel and buried it into the ground around my little raspberry stick, making sure that if anything was growing under ground, it would be dead!

First, he knows that I feel about my plants like they are my babies. Second, MY little stick wasn't even on HIS property. What my head keeps screaming at me is "By what right did he decide that it was okay for HIM to make sure that MY plant was completely dead??????" DAMMIT!!!!

And he's offering to take care of MY plants that are closest to HIS patio??? Not on his life!! I told him so, too!! This was before he chopped the roots on MY stick!! I'd like to take that same chissel and chop a toe or two and see how HE likes it!

Ok... so am I overreacting??