Thanks so much Petunia,
I am looking at going ahead. The only thing is that my SO has no one here to help. This marriage was for 10 years, so he is having a very difficult time dealing with the fact that his soon-to-be ex hates him. He was always supportive of her. He even went as far as to sacrifice his feelings for her. Until I came along he was the caretaker and I had to help him come out of his shell and speak his feelings.
I think she now realizes that he is not going to run into her room after she cusses him out and give her hugs and tell her it's ok.
I am really trying to take care of myself.
Thanks again. I need hugs ATM.
~onlymedid