You know As a guy I can ID with a lot of what you've gone through. To make a long story short you probably stayed with her just for the SEX. You should have realized how she really was and got out quick. But you just couldn't give up that great sex. Now because of that look what it has turned into. How do know your kids won't give a damn about you later on in life ? You make yourself out to be the great hero when all you are is a lustful fool. Your wife may need help and I don't think she got the help she should have gotten.

Come on now , fess up to the fact that your not the victim here , you just got sideswiped by life.

Also it's interesting to note that your last paragraph says a lot. Your just looking for a new piece of ***.