My brother told us he is filing for divorce. On one hand this was not a surprise as they have been working on various issues for some time, together and in counseling, and apparently they are not able to resolve them. They are miserable, the children are miserable too, so it may very well be for the best since things are not getting better but worse.

What I am concerned about is that I love my brother and we like her. We are not in the relationship to understand full the extend of what is going on. It is not as though there is clear fault here, issues on both sides, and both sides are basically asking for support. I want to be supportive and my folks want to be supportive of whatever they decide too, but we do not want to get in the middle of it; it should be between them. But how to do do that (?); she is still the mother of my nephew, their grandchild, and always will be. I wish on one hand could villainize one or the other, but both are actually causing the problems from what we do know.

I don't know how exactly to be of the most help and I don't know how to be supportive. I have been trying more so to be there for the kiddoes in the interim, and just being a sounding board and listening to the two of them too is all I can safely do at this point and I am not even sure I should be doing this. Perhaps this is all we can do or should I even being doing this with my sis-in-law or future "ex"-sis-in-law.

Any thoughts or suggestions?

Thanks in advance for your insights.