Well, it's obvious from what you said that your dad doesn't know how to love...and maybe that's from his own upbringing where he didn't have a good role model?

It's important when talking to men that you are doing something else while talking... men don't do the sit down and talk act well at all imo. Guys often chat while shooting hoops, for instance.

Then, while it's personal to you, try to state things matter of factly... your feelings about it... You know Dad, when you xxxx that really made me mad and made me feel like you don't love me either... sentences like that. It may be he needs to know how to phrase things too, especially his feelings? Be ready for what you would like him to say or do to show he really does love you (I suspect he does...)... and maybe make a truce with him that when you are together you won't xxxx (talk about his nor your past? stuff like that?) but focus on dreams or desires?

Good wishes!