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Originally Posted by Rose76
There is something really wrong with this "good friend" of yours. She has some severe self-esteem issues of her own. She wants you to feel very grateful to her for accepting you, like she is doing you a big favor by accepting you.
You have two good options for handling this. One is for you to dump her as a friend. Another, which I think is even better, is to just tell her to knock it off. Just flat out tell her to stop, when she starts this kind of talk. Tell her to either stop or leave your presence. Say, "You're talking crap and I have no time or interest to listen to it." You'll shock her because she wants you to be insecure. That way she can feel she has power over you. She wants that power because she is insecure. Come right out and say, "I'm just fine exactly the way I am."
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I'm not sure if that's the case or not. If I knew that it was, she'd not be my friend for sure. I have more self esteem and self worth than that! I did tell her to not mention my weight again as it bothers me. I don't think that she meant it to be mean, or to have power over me. I just think it was a silly assumption on her part, and also partially based on her own insecurities about how women are perceived based on their weight.
I honestly don't think it was meant to hurt me like I said. Thanks for your input though. Since I made things clear to her, she has been respectful of my feelings-
Sometimes people just have a tendency to put their foot in their mouths. I know that I do at times, so I try to cut other people some slack as no one is perfect all the time.