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Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey
It is definitely worse on the mommy side. In US culture, being a mother is something to be highly regarded (even if you're **** for a mom). Mother's day is the most widely celebrated holiday. The online internet movement for mommies pretty much has them all touting themselves as "SUPER mommies!" I am childless, but it is a bit nauseating. I just want to say uhm ok you're doing what every mom is supposed to do, why the need to constantly pat yourself on the back? Yeah, I know this post won't be popular, but given that I've seen the darkest of the dark in terms of what mommies can do, I guess maybe I'm a little jaded (but not completely). The super-mommy movement is waaay over the top.
FYI I'm reading a book right now on healing from having a narcissistic mother. Its very validating. There is a cultural expectation to put mommies up on a pedestal and if you dare badmouth a mother? Whoa, you're an outcast. Badmouthing daddies is MUCH more culturally accepted....."Deadbeat Dad" anyone?
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Hi Chippermonkey
I found your post very validating! I'm not in the states but I think at least in the western world, we put mothers on a pedestal. Yes you're right, it's more socially accepted to downgrade fathers than mothers. It seems society thinks all mothers are great/wonderful. If that is the case, why do we have children's services?? Surely it's not only childrearing mistakes made by fathers??
Can you tell me the name of that book? I think my mother is narcissistic also.
And the view on parents? Both my parents were abusive but more so my mother who projected to the world saintliness. But behind close door she was a wolf in a sheep skin.
PH