My father was my abuser. He has five siblings and only one is in contact with him. None of the rest of my immediate or extended family has anything to do with him. His one sibling keeps tabs on him and we have an understanding that information will only be passed along if asked for. Everyone has a lot of respect for each other's feelings and the different ways we have of coping.

My immediate mom, siblings and I have dysfunctional relationships due to the abuse, but the one thing we agree on is that my dad is a piece of crap. If I ever had to see him at family functions my family would never see me. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones. My situation may also be different because my dad went to prison for what he did. I've known many people who were abused but I've never met anyone IRL whose abuser went to jail. I think it probably affects the family dynamic.