I do generalize and think in absolutes, mostly when I feel insecure or am depressed. It's gotten me into trouble in relationships ("You always...you never...") I'm working on it.

Sometimes I think shame has a hand in it, too. You get to a certain point where you feel intense shame and think surely others see it (they can't, at least they wouldn't label it "shame"). And then it follows that if everyone sees then everyone must surely reject you. Totally dysfunctional thinking.

It's also good to remember that most people don't think about us nearly as much as we think they do, good OR bad.