i know i attracted those types of relationships to continue the cycle of abuse from my childhood. the belief was if i could only be "perfect" enough for these guys to change they behavior and stop being abusive then it would mean they love me and make up for the fact i never felt like i was good enough for my abusive dad to love me. finally tired of being abused and realizing this, i am just staying out of relationships and taking care of me. i am so much happier having the freedom to do whatever i want, whenever i want and never having anybody mad at me for moving in the bed, wanting to watch something on tv, not having meals made to their specifications, breathing.,.,,,im sure you catch my drift