i do not see how either are bad signs. people die and candles go out. the only way things have any power at all is if you believe. i for one believe death is making way for new life so the death could be seen as bringing new life, new beginning to your marriage so it can be a good sign. if you see things as bad omens, then any little bad thing in the world is going to stand out in focus for you big and bold no matter how many good things happen to you. you will be looking for the bad so these things will be easier to see and you will notice the good things less.