Absolutely! First, let me say that it's terrific that you're feeling better and able and motivated to get things back to a livable state.

But I do not see why your boyfriend expects you to do all the work to get the place ready for his children. (If that is what he expects.) Maybe he's okay with it being messy?

I also don't see the logic of expecting the person who isn't working to do 100% of the household tasks. If there are things that you need help with, I think you're completely right to ask him to help.

I also think that if the cockatoo is his pet, then he should take care of it. If you end up bonding with the cockatoo and want to care for it, that's great, but I don't see that as "housework".

It sounds like the two of you need to have a discussion about how to split up the household tasks. Not fun, but it would help to make a list of responsibilities.

It would also be good to discuss what he thinks needs to be done before the children come to stay with you, because that's another subject that you'll both need to agree about.

He may be expecting that you are going to do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and entertaining when his children come over to visit.

If those conversations go really badly, then couples counseling might be a good idea.

Hugs.