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Originally Posted by RxQueen875
Congrats on your graduation first off! That's a huge accomplishment especially when you have MI to deal with. When it comes to work relationships, I've always felt like they were friendly to me, but couldn't care less outside of work because I wasn't married like them. I didn't have kids like they do. So our interests were just different.
However for them to tell you that they will be there and not show up is kinda crappy. I can't imagine how bad that made you feel. In my opinion, I'd stop trying after that and keep it to a at work only basis.
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Thanks!
Most of them are married, some aren't, but all are in relationships. I'm not. I don't really want to be right now. I think that's part of it.
I think that most of them had honest reasons, and I think they wanted to come. That said, it's irritating to keep putting myself out there to have people just kind of be like, "Meh." I think it's more a case of we get more set in our ways and more self-centered the older we get. But that's still not an excuse, and I'm not going to force anyone to be my friend or to consider me important. I may just have to settle for being respected and not need the friendships as much.
Two of my high school friends and I communicate pretty regularly via FB--we all live in different states now, and they live 9 and 12 hours away from me. We've talked for several years about going on a trip together in 2016 rather than going to our 20th reunion. Neither of them are planners, so I've come up with a handful of ideas which they've been enthusiastic about. But when I try to pin them down to set something in stone, they waffle (I am in a job where I need to arrange for time off in advance; I can't ask for weekends off, I have to trade). Finally I'm like hey, why don't we meet in the middle somewhere? I presented an awesome idea for a weekend we'd all love, relatively inexpensive. More waffling. So I'm just over it. For them it's a case of one has a family and a job where she can't travel except for two months in the summer, the other works three jobs, supports her mother, and is very much an introvert. I am pretty adventurous, have no one to support, and my income is about to double (not that I don't have bills and loans to pay in addition to a plan to save 20% of my income). So I am in a totally different position. I get it. But after presenting the best, most affordable option which is still shot down, meh.
Being a single woman in her late 30's excludes you from a lot, I think. But my situation is not going to change soon, haha. I have other friends. Not many, but I have them. And I like my own company too, so there's that. Anyway. Thanks for the feedback everyone.
