Oy, what a painful question! I lost the love and respect of my first husband just from being diagnosed with the disease, but I gained the lost and respect of my second husband. I lost thousands of dollars, but have enough money to pay my bills most of the time. I lost custody of my daughter, but gained custody of my daughter (same daughter) one year later......

.... basically, anything that I have lost through bipolar has been balanced by something that I have gained.