StbGuy
It's about conditioning, brain-washing if you will. The child only knows "father's" or "mother's" world view. It's ingrained into every fiber of the child's psyche. Mom or dad is queen/king, or in some cases, God. The ruler, the only universally true being. It's a warping of the mind like no other.

So true. Thats it!

It runs deep. Being convinced to love this person. The decades of guilt-tripping and "displays" of what seems to be love makes you love them.

This faux 'love' of neglect, cruelty and abuse, with an occasional act of what appears to be *kindness* thrown in, just enough to keep you trapped. They want to keep their chew toy subservient. Stockholm Syndrome.

"All I've done for you!!" was of fathers favorite sayings. He did f##k all for me
The basics were provided and boy, they never let me forget it.
But parents should provide, thats what parents do, its not a favor! I didn't ask to be born!

"If it wasn't for you we'd be alright."

The truth is, it actually would read:

"If it wasn't for you, I'd be alright."

They love one and one only - themselves.

YES.

Thank you for your reply StbGuy much appreciated.