I completely agree with you TerriLynn! I would do the same!

I am not talking to my mother at this time. She and dad swept things under the rug as did my dad's mother. She, however, adored me and so that was the exception. She always protected/enabled my father, but looking back, that didn't spoil my love for her.

Now, my mother will just not talk or change the subject. There's emotional & sexual abuse, alcoholism and my brother's suicide. God knows the subject of his death is not discussed. I have some ideas of why he took his life. Years ago I ran into some friends of his from his church. I know more of his life and the demons he struggled with. That really helped me grieve and move on.

Now mom has moved on to my daughters who are in college. I don't want to speak poorly of her, but now I see where SHE has pushed them away. Kids that age today know more than when I was their age.

Anyway, I say do what feels right for you at this time. You can always change your mind or modify what YOU think is best. Hang in...