I admire your strength and courage in reporting this incident. I know it had to be hard but you did the right thing.

It's only normal to be upset when someone you trusted crossed your personal boundaries. It's not acceptable for your client to hug you, caress you, etc. The fact is he violated you. You have every right to feel disgusted. I understand why you feel bad for "causing trouble" because I'm sure I've gone there too when my boundaries have been violated in the past. But I promise you, you did nothing wrong. Your actions were entirely appropriate. I'm sorry that your client breeched your trust and essentially muddied what was once a really good working relationship. He tore that down and made you report him. It's not your fault.

There are times when it seems like the whole world is a minefield when you're a woman. So many things cross the line into a sexual area when they shouldn't. I had a professor who made a move on me after working with me for a year on a study project and recommending me to grad schools. I had been so proud of his mentorship and felt really confident about grad school. Then I found out he had this sexual interest in me, and it made me feel awful about myself. "Of course he just wants sex. Of course he didn't see anything intellectually promising in me." -- that's the kind of thinking I had to unlearn. Judgment here shouldn't fall on the victim, it belongs on the perpetrator.

The responsibility lies in the hands of those who violate boundaries, not those who enforce those boundaries. ::wishing you peace::