Today I am struggling with my mom. Usually I don't let her bad attitude affect me but I have been feeling "off" since the time change, just kind of blah. My mom is one of those people who always has something to say about how you are not doing things right, she's constantly critical. She always knows better than anyone else and if you disagree with her or tell her that her comments bother you she acts attacked. For example I've said in the past "I know I gained some weight, but pointing it out hurts my feelings."
Her reaction is to get upset and say "I just thought I would tell you because I love you and I didn't want you to walk around looking bad and everyone to be talking about how bad you look." Then she cries and says stuff like "I don't know why you girls (me and my adult sister) are so mean to me all the time! All I've ever done is love you. I guess I should just never tell you anything, quit talking to you at all." I'm 34, my sister is 32, we have both been on our own since college-age.

I won't re-friend my mom on facebook and she's obsessed with that, even though it's because she has defriended me four times. She gets upset about some perceived slight and stops talking to me, she defriends me on facebook and 95% of the time also sends a long email about how horrible I am and how she never wants to see me again. She's said I'm no longer welcome in her house over disagreeing with her and she always says "have a nice life" like she won't talk to me again even though it only lasts a few days up to a month. Most of the time I try to limit the time I spend with her (a dinner once a week and holidays) and just don't let it get to me. Today, she's upset with me because I'm buying myself a piece of jewelry she thinks is too expensive. I graduated from college in May, I'm nearly 35, I have a good job, no debt except student loans which I pay monthly, I contribute to a 401K, I have health insurance for the first time in nearly a decade and a little bit of savings! Which is unheard of. I've worked REALLY REALLY REALLY hard to get here.

She's so upset that I'm buying this piece of jewelry she thinks is too expensive. She's tried to convince me it's a bad idea, asked me to wait, told me it's not worth the money I'm paying, texted me "I know my opinion doesn't matter to you but..." It's just driving her batty I refuse to do what she wants. She texted me this morning and I should've ignored it but she asked if I bought the piece and I said yes. She replied "Oh." I'm ignoring that text but it just makes me angry and tired. I can't even enjoy this nice thing I am doing for myself to celebrate the last 20 years of working hard. What can I do to stop caring what she thinks? I really try but she eventually gets to me.