I told her I am not having Thanksgiving, which means I am not cooking for her. She won't call me. I am 'written off'. She has done that many times before. If I didn't call and apologize, she would really never speak to me again. Each time, I have called or asked my husband to call for me to make peace. This time, I won't.
Of course, i will cook for my family. My sons are coming home from college. Food is an issue this year because of IBS. So we will eat together and have some quality time. They will not mind that Grandma is not there. My little one says 'Grandma ruins everything'.
And if she called my kids and invited them to her house, and they wanted to go, I certainly would not stop them.
This is my life, dealing with a couple of really difficult people, beating myself up all the time thinking I am to blame, the problem is me. Why couldn't I just let her walk all over me and not care? It kills me that I only asked for one small show of respect and couldn't even get that. Boy does she know how to press my buttons.