Interesting you picked up on that. She called my sisters telling them she'll never speak to me again and that I told her to die. I did not say that, but... when she said I'm killing her, I said 'nothing will kill you'. What I meant is that she thrives on confrontation. My sisters agree. I didn't mean that I want her to die. Now she's put me on the defensive, making me want to call her and clarify that I didn't wish her death. My mom is 80. Shame on me for fighting with an old lady. And this is how it goes, over and over again.