No, I think you're right, Silently. When I call T it's because I'm desperate to reach out and hold onto something... And since in the past we've had some pretty deep connections over the phone... I always have that expectation now. I tease him because sometimes he really sucks over the phone and sometimes he has a "moment." Yesterday was not a "moment." I'm seeing him at 5 today (keeping soooo busy at work today to make the time pass faster-- NO SLACKING, lol)... and I'm going to discuss this with him.

And as far as projecting my frustration onto him... I do that all the time in session. I will tell him, "YOU'RE FRUSTRATED!" When I'm really the one frustrated with myself. Sometimes, though, he is frustrated. But he will tell me when he is. A lot of times I project my emotions onto him becuase it's easier to identify them as his, or to be angry with him, than recognize and deal with them as my own.

Lots of good responses to this... thank you... helped me to think about it on a deeper level.