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Originally Posted by The Blue Butterfly
No I haven't fully opened up about this to my therapist. I feel like in being selfish and should just ignore my doubts and just deal with it. We gave a lot of history, we have been through so much together and I feel like I should put my selfish feelings aside and just ignore my confusion
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That'd be a good person to talk to about it - do it!
Consider... if the work guy wasn't around, would you feel this strongly? Was sex with hubby unexciting when you married? Does he support a good relationship between you and your son? Do you trust him with your son? How come you decided to marry him in the first place? Are those reasons still valid? Are there ways to foster the "independence" you crave while remaining married?
I can't tell you how many 1000s of days of my marriage (at times years on end) I started by running thru all the reasons to stay/go and making the conscious decision to stay. Not what I "wanted," but what I choose to do, repeatedly - consciously and deliberately. Talking through the reality of what staying or going means for you with your therapist will help sort things out in your mind and ultimately make you feel better about whatever you decide.