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Old Aug 10, 2003, 01:28 PM
Zenobia Zenobia is offline
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Location: Washington, USA
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I have been learning that there is life after abuse. First step is to realize that this thing has affected how your life has been lived. You have just done that. I think it is the hardest part, to stand up and say I was abused and I have allowed it to make my life less. Once you are able to say that you will be able to make the choice to change your life so it will be the way that you want it to be. I was the victim of abuse. Following that I was a victim of myself by allowing myself to be controlled by that abuse. Once I decided that I didn't want to be that way anymore, once I decided that I wasn't going to allow that (very long expletive to be placed here discribing a certain male person) to take any more of my life away from me, I was able to start the long road to recovery. It is a long road but I believe that once we start we can't stop and once we begin we find out more about ourselves then anyone else can possibly know about themselves. I guess that is the silver lining. Through the pain we discover there is something truely special and powerful about ourselves because we are survivors and we have decided to beat the odds. I guess this is my saying that things don't have to be the way they are now. It does get better, you just have to be ready to make the change. The change hurts, is frightening and feels impossible but you can do it it just takes time and persistance.
Take care,
Carrie

<font color=green>Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.--Emily Dickenson