He reacted snotty? I couldn't stay with this guy.

If you find another T or two and you all decide you are still inappropriate and wrong...that the problem is solely yours...that would be good information to have.

I don't feel the problem is even remotely solely yours. The T's patholgizing, sarcasm and not taking any responsibility for any errors he's made....that's wrong and harmful.

Please get a consultation or consider leaving this guy all together.