I have the opposite problem. I am a 48 year old woman with a history of csa and trauma. I have been married 26 years and I never wanted my husband more than I do now. I want that closeness (not necessarily sex) Problem is he doesn't have time for me . I am not a priority and I miss feeling close. I often feel lonely and neglected. I feel ashamed that I have practically thrown myself at him and I feel he feels obliged to reciprocate, that leaves me very hurt and frustrated. I am not unattractive and when we do have sex he says always feels good. He is 54 and I know his meds sometimes interfere. I miss intimacy and feeling like a partner instead of a roommate. I still enjoy sex with him and worry that he doesn't want it as much as I do.