I want to send a letter to my mother but now im not exactly sure if i should....my bf says the letter sounds cold (which since my mom and i practally hate each other you cant really blame the ..strangerness of it all) And he said be careful in sending it because if i burn bridges i will regret it...but the fact is...its like the bridge is already burnt...since we havent talked in like 4 months...however my goal in this letter is to tell her i dont want to talk to her but i dont want things to be on a I hate you level...i just want a stranger cordialness about it...so i am able to contact my sister...so i am going to put the letter down here and if any could give me comments...yes the grammer is probably terrible...but thats not exactly the most important thing in writing this letter...any comments appreciated...

Dear Mom,

Currently our situtation between the both of us is unstable. I, myself, would like to see something different. I understand you have your arguments and your different points of view as you should since you are an individual as; likewise, you should accept the fact that I have my arguments and my points of view. I think we can both agree to disagree and understand that we have both been put under enormous amounts of pain and we have both survived the best we know how. That is the key element in this, we survived the best we know how. I respect you as a individual for surviving what you have, unfortunately we can both agree that in order for your ability to survive, other areas went lacking. Now that I am an adult I can understand this and my only request is that you give me that same respect. I have survived the best way I know how. That may mean other areas have went lacking, however we are human and this is what humans do. I believe th ough that too much damage has been done to us seperately as well as together that we cannot have the relationship that I am sure both of us in the past have strived for. I again am accepting this, as I hope you will as well. I will never deny you the title of my mother. I am writing this email in hopes that even though the relationship will never exactly be carried out or cozy it will not be like now. I am trying to learn of forgiveness, and I am still working on that and maybe, someday, I will become the better person and truly forgive but for now this is my first step. I think it would be better for the both of us if we stopped communication but are on easy, respectable terms if the moment should arise to talk. I would like to continue a relationship with Sophia because she is my sister and I do love her dearly. The innocent always have to pay. That is one lesson you and I have both learned very well. And I would rather she not have to learn that lesson. This is another mistake I am trying to correct before it is too late. As for StepDad, I think the same term should should be applied. I wish you all a very happy life of your own with much success and peace. May your faith be stronger, and your lessons learned as I have learned my own. God Bless and Good luck.

Inny (just changed the name to my sn here)