Lol including places just like this. Having NPD and finding people who understand you is not easy. Same as looking online and trying to find a relatable story on one of us. The only thing that has helped me is finding others who understand and some that are working on being better. People like us are programmed to be a certain way, a way we adapted to and is the only thing we know. Sounds like your bf is doing a great job on modifying his behavior. I've been through two therapists with both being a waste of time. Takes a special someone to be able to get through to one of us. Luckily enough I have a wife that gets me!!! Tell him to just join here and get involved in the NPD room as there are a few good people in there and ones that do help.