Wow. It's that kind of attitude that perpetuates sexism, domestic violence, sexual harassment, unequal pay, low self-esteem, postpartum depression, etc.

One partner, male or female, should never come before the other. A real relationship is an equal partnership where both partners' feelings, opinions, and achievements are valued equally and both partners support each other. A relationship is a team, not a hierarchy.

No woman's job is to dress in a way that makes her feel uncomfortable just so that she can please a man. It is your body. You should dress how YOU want, in a way that makes you comfortable and happy. If he cares about you, that is what he will want, too. If he doesn't care about what makes you uncomfortable or what you want, then you should be re-thinking the idea of spending your life with him.

Dressing provocatively is also never an excuse to be sexually harassed or raped. A woman is not responsible for "provoking" a man's thoughts or actions. That is just plain wrong. Cat-calling women is not okay, either. That is a form of harassment.

A woman who puts her needs above-- or on par with-- her partner's needs is not lazy. She is a woman with a healthy and appropriate sense of self-worth and self-esteem.

Many mental illnesses-- past and present-- are actually partially caused or exacerbated by cultural problems, including structural sexism. The idea that a woman has to constantly put herself last and take care of everyone else's needs while denying her own is a huge contributing factor to depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. The entire epidemic of "hysteria" in the late 19th century was the result of women being forced into domestic life and being prevented from intellectual and economic pursuits.

I really hope that the next generation of girls (and boys) will not be exposed to these kinds of sexist beliefs.