I don't think you're from a different planet, but probably part of the small majority. I'm a woman who doesn't think about her looks when she's out in public. I don't look at how pretty other woman look. I don't feel jealously towards other woman, and I say that with the utmost honesty. The way some other women act and treat other women is so far detached from my understanding that I'm almost scared of them. However, it's good to know that other women here don't care about their looks that much.

As far as I can tell, it's an underlying social "problem" in existence since there was such a thing as women. I'd like to think it's controllable by each woman, but since I don't deal with it myself, I don't really know if women can control it.

I used to care about my and others' attractiveness in my more hormonal days when I was an adolescent. It was because I was in school and surrounded by boys my own age, so I think you can figure out the rest there. This kind of leads on to some dark assumptions about women's interest in their looks though, so maybe it's for different reasons when they are older. Some ideas could be: are they feeling protective of their spouse? Do they want attention over other women from the opposite sex? My favorite theory is that women are avoiding bullying from women who do care about men's attraction to them, and manipulate it as a social power. I personally just put up with the bully women, and since I'm not affected by their "competition" because of the way I am, they eventually calm down. Oh yeah, I don't dress revealingly, and usually wear baggy clothes, to calm the beasts some women become, haha.

I can think of some instances that might bring light to this. There have been times women were outright angry and bullying me, a complete stranger, because a guy they liked were being friendly with me. Oh, god forbid (sarcasm) that he's a nice man to strange women. Even married women have treated me badly because a handsome guy they hang around was being nice to me. So, I think these women might see looks as the only thing that keeps the men they're interested in around them. The saddest part is that they're willing to pursue men who would only like them if they're pretty. Plus, I think a large percent of the population (not all of them), doesn't have strong moral values anyway.

Either way, it sounds really difficult to deal with, and I'm glad I don't. I don't know how much it affects some people, but I sincerely hope not much, especially since looks are basically the most worthless attributes someone can have, once you strip away its "social" power.

For me, when it comes to what I think about daily, the first things that come to mind is what I need to do, what I can accomplish, the daily things and issues that pop up, and people I care about.

Oh yeah, I should mention that I feel almost no attraction to the opposite sex, and not at all to women. I usually only feel sexual attraction if I've known a guy for a long time, as though my mind had to be comfortable with this person first to feel that way. I think it's called being demisexual, but I don't think much on it. Maybe this has an affect on the way I see looks. I'm not even that sexually attracted to my boyfriend (although I still am), and he's the only one I'm attracted to right now. It's just how I am. If he said he didn't like what I was wearing, then I would care.

I still like to dress cleanly though, but I don't see this as a way to look "pretty," but just more professional.