<font color="#000088">I think Silentlyscreaming had a lot of good points to add! It does seem like the deck is certainly overly stacked against your Dad. And if your Mom is purposely hiding things, than maybe something isn't quite right with her mentally. I think that was a good point made about having a sit down with both of your parents, and leting them know how their constant fighting and your Moms paranoia is affecting you, and that you can't take it anymore being stuck in the middle. Because it really isn't fair for either of them to put you in the middle. It's their relationship, and even though it effects you how it turns out, having you do things, like spying on one or the other, or anything of that sort isn't fair to have you do. You are a neutral member of the household, that shouldn't be forced to take sides. It's not healthy emotionally to put you through that. I'm really sorry you are having to deal with this torment, which I'm sure that's what it feels like. That you are being tormented by both sides. I really think that you're family needs some counseling, if things will ever become resolved,especially with your Moms side feeding into her paranoia, and I think that they are probably just giving her things to accuse him of, that he may not be doing. But you never know, I don't know! But I would really sit down and talk with them, and let them know how much it is hurting you. Because I agree that they probably are not trying to hurt you in any way, and talking to them about it might help, atleast a little. It's better than doing nothing, and continueing on the road that you're on now! I hope things get better for you, and things atleast change for the better at home,so you won't have to deal with so much, that is not your responsibility to deal with!
I wish you the best in your efforts!
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