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Originally Posted by Rapunzel
Being able to see her pattern and know that you are breaking the cycle is huge! If you know that she is not supportive, stop telling her things. Set boundaries, just like you are doing with not re-friending her on Facebook when she has demonstrated that she doesn't handle that appropriately. Maybe when she realizes that her criticism just gets her silence and less contact with you, she will decide to work on how she interacts with you. Maybe she will never change. If she doesn't change, you get to choose how much chance you give her. You could invite her to a family counseling session together and spell it out for her if you think that it might help.
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Thank you! Boundaries are tough for me because my family had none so I started learning how to set them and where they should be around age 25.
Counseling definitely wouldn't help unfortunately, she's made comments over the years about "I bet you tell your therapist everything that's wrong with you is my fault." Well, a lot of it is! She takes zero responsibility for anything she says and does. At this age (nearly 70) she says "I'm too old to change" any time I suggest she try to go to therapy for whatever she's complaining about at that time. Being passive aggressive and a victim is almost her personality at this point
