I stayed for 31 years and then found the answer/book which saved my life: THe Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. You can take action if you want to figure out why you stay , etc......counseling, reading everything on verbal abuse, etc....Living in limbo is a terrible place to be. Abuse is a CHOICE; he chooses that to keep you under his control. It is literally brainwashing, tht is why it is so confusing. What do you want to do about it is the question;; if it is to escape being abused.......you have options. xo

He does NOT love you.....love doesn't hurt or abuse; You don't want to be a victim (I believe), but are repeating a pattern of what you have lived with and what you know and is familiar. There is hope, if you want to stop being abused.

He has NO power over you, except the power you give him.

See if this rings a bell! https://niastories.files.wordpress.c...f_coercion.pdf