So when you're getting the emotional shyte beaten out of you, you're supposed to be compassionate with your abusers?!?!

I have no words for this. I feel you have no experience with being abused! Maybe I should go show compassion for those who raped me or beat the crap out of me, because they were suffering, too!

You fail to realize that humans have free will. Just because *i* am hurting doesn't mean I have free reign to verbally, physically and sexually abuse others.

Oh, and I think your second paragraph may be indicative of the other struggles you post about.