Short version : Filed for a no fault divorce. Signed an agreement trying to " simplify " settling things without too much lawyer involvement. No kids under 18. Just me and her.

I basically left with nothing just to get out.
She never handed in the final papers to the court for the " final decree ".
So we are still legally married. She did this for financial reasons. Now I can make
her hand in those papers but in all honesty it will cost me too. So we're basically
just separated even though I live elsewhere.
Here's my conundrum : I wanted to get the final decree so it will be done and official.
Also because I wanted ALL ties cut so there would have to be no communication.

Because of the way it is now I feel the umbilical cord has not been cut and I can't
psychologically move on. I'm starting to feel like paying the price for this to happen.
Also is she still trying to hurt me psychologically ?
She knows how fragile I am.

Heeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllllllllllllllllppppppppppppppppppp.