I think that this might be hard to take in at the moment, but very necessary that you at least try to do so:

The best way to feel VERY needed and appreciated at this time is to also love that baby. To offer your help where you can. I am not suggesting you be a doormat for anyone, but to honestly and lovingly see the new baby as a special gift from above and to share in this new joy. No parent can resist another human being who also sees their baby in a loving way. In addition, you will be seen more as an equal and more loving, kind, mature and giving.

In addition, this is the time to take special care of your own personal needs. Almost all, if not all, females n go through periods of time when they feel "fat" or "ugly." It's human nature. When under stress or when things aren't going right...well it happens.

What you need is a friend (I can do that) to tell you to pick yourself and hit the beauty parlor or something similar. Yes, I know this sounds simplistic. Sometimes answers start in the strangest places. If you are younger than 18, ask your mom if you can get your hair done, buy a new item of clothing, get your nails done.....Then walk around the block, etc. If you are overweight, look into the WEight Watchers program. There's also a book by author Bob Greene called "your Best Life Diet." You can probably get this at the library. It's filled with information that has helped many people lose weight.

Especially if you are close to your mom, I would let her know that you miss her companionship and don't want to be left out of her life now that the baby is here. But keep in mind, that this is also an opportunity for you to grow closer to your parents by showing your love for the baby and offering to help when you are able. Maybe you can babysit and use the extra money to buy some wonderful items for yourself!!!!! I would quietly or with your mom's help...start a beauty and weight loss program. In addition, think about any other areas of personal development you might want to work on. What about hobbies? Do you need to make improvements with any of your school subjects? Don't concentrate on this difficulty at home. Instead, make your folks see you as the wonderful, capable person that you are and have always been.