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I do not find that nudity itself is the problem but rather my insecurity.
And if the problem is mine, and not the nudity, it is my problem to deal with...

I do not punish my husband for my problem.

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Yes - I agree with you, it is the person with the issue of naked women that has the problem and they alone should seek to find the root of this problem and work from there........... and yet this is where it gets hard, for my husband and his past porn addiction is at the root of this issue for me.

I did not have an issue with female nudity until after he rejected me for so long for what his eyes saw online, in magazines and in adult movies that I subconsciously developed a fear of beautiful sexy females (this fear even has a name, but I forget right now) - and I am so desperately trying to over come this deep seeded fear so as not let it control my life, my love for my husband or how I spend days any more.

I have grown a lot in this area since my husband gave up his porn use and lusting five years ago.... and yet it is hard at times for me to not want to punish him for my problem with him seeing naked females - for he created this issue in and for me.

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Should a man not allow a girl to watch chic flicks with overly romantic, strong, sensitive, handsome, perfect men because they feel insecure that you would prefer one of these men to them.

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Hmm - to be honest I do not believe men think the same way as we females do with these type of issues - I do not think it would bother them at all....... heck it probably does not bother them that we see other men naked? - as long as we are theirs.

I personally think a man should be worried if we (the females) started to have lunch or dinner along with a man that was willing to give to us emotionally and willing to listen to our needs, wants, desires and upsets.

... but then again from what I have learned from other females in serious relationships..... a lot of men will not even do any thing when things are going wrong until you are actually walking out the door.