Listen to your instincts, you have them for a reason, and pay attention to the evidence presented as opposed to the testimony.

I didn't recognize the signs as early as you, by the time they became larger than life it had been years, and we had a child, so I chose to ignore everything I was supposed to be paying attention to.

I wasted years and was subjected to unnecessary pain, all in the name of "love"...

You're smarter than that, run and don't look back.