I've noticed asking me if I want to do something ahead of time will likely never result in any willingness or a date to do it. If on the other hand I am TOLD it is going to happen I will, albeit reluctantly, do it. And, ironically I will tend to enjoy myself.

For example I see my counsellors twice a week often in my own home. But, and I dread the call, they will sometimes call me as they are on the way over and warn me to get dressed because they are taking me out. Like I said I dread it but end up being glad they do it (they drag me to coffee or take me out shopping).

My father and son will do the same thing - we are "coming over to take you to lunch" a movie, etc.

But, given a choice to do something or be asked ahead of time chances are I will decline.