Hi rcat-----Maybe I'm being nieve' here but what is this line your crossing ? What could you be doing to cause a breakup of your relationship. Obviously there are trust issues involved here. I know my wife was online long before me and I just felt she had a lot of secrets which did cause us to argue sometimes because she told me it was " personal " and I had no right to look or know what she was doing. Right there I knew she was doing something wrong. My neighbors got divorced when the wife met someone on line in "real life ". So I guess stuff can happen . I attribute it to just plain curiosity. You say you don't know how to trust , trust who ? the other person or yourself ?