Ever since my brother started dating this girl she spends nearly every other night here. I thought I was okay with it, but all they do is have sex, drink and smoke on the porch. It's driving me nuts. That and my brother once got so damn drunk he stumbled into my room, not even dressed, thinking it was his room.

On top of that I am expected to clean what my mom refers to as the "guest bathroom" that I and my brother both use (plus his gf now).

It's too much for me.

Let me say now that it's not jealousy I am feeling. I am sure of it. Why would I be jealous of a drunkard who is too damn stubborn to admit he needs help? He used to drink all of my father's whiskey and diet coke before thay had a discussion, and still my father keeps his diet coke firmly locked in his car so my brother won't be inclined to consume it.

What can I do? Moving out isn't an option because I have bad anxiety and don't want to be forced into a contract with a room mate. I have enough trouble keeping my bedroom clean. I don't want to get into a constant battle with a room mate over it. It's bad enough with my mom. And keeping on myself to make monthly payments? Forget about it.

I swear, if things don't start improving around here.....I might go even more bat **** crazy than I already am. I can't live like this.

I've discussed this problem at length with my T and she recommended an intervention for my brother, but with my family? Ha! I've talked to my mom about it and she says there's nothing we can do....

I hurt watching my brother deteriorate like he is, he's been through so much. First childhood cancer, then a rebellious teenage stage, and now he's going to drink himself into oblivion.

Life just sucks......